We married on easter,2006-he is sleeping w/ex-wife (many signs)he is a policeman in plymouth, ct.?

since i've discovered the affair out,i question hoping for truth,if yes,just tell me i can deal w/reality rather than non-reality.why he choses to continue to lie about obvious evedence(smells of sex,disinterested in me in any way, yells,blames,states he hates me,wishes i would die,sel on pillowcase,says worked overtime but not on paystubs,lies when confronted w/proof,late home after work,wants to know exactly where i am at all times, accuses me of affair,blocked phone no.s, calling card no.s-many "unidentifed calls", erases certain no.s,it goes on and on, i am so upset that i self-destruct by using narcotics, drinking,cutting my back w/scissors to release emotional pain as he wouldn't allow me to cry, said i was whining,wou;ld hit me in back of head,throw thick leather belt around my neck attempting to drag me into bedroom, etc what can i do personally and legally? they are sabotoging my emotional state of mind. i just detoxed out of hosp for second time in 1 month i need advice frie

We married on easter,2006-he is sleeping w/ex-wife (many signs)he is a policeman in plymouth, ct.?
honey you got to get out the abuse only gets worse and he's a cop he thinks he can get away with anything you have got to leave for your own peace of mine and your life for that matter
Reply:well some mans just act stupid they do not see what they have at front
Reply:Why don't you get a divorce?





You actually might qualify for an annulment.(cheaper than divorce)
Reply:Leave, anything is better than such a abusive relationship.
Reply:First thing to do is: Walk out of the house.





Walk out with the intention of leaving this marriage for good. Take some clothes, some makeup, some good running shoes, and just make your bag light. Have a plan of stay. Prepare folks you are coming over on that day.





Then the first person you call is His Boss! You have just made a formal compliant against a violant police officer and if his boss does not respond, you have got yourself a perfect legal lawsuit against the police department as well as the city.





Major money due in to you!
Reply:Run like hell leave is A%$ he really didnt take his vows seriously and well he could of told you what he really wanted and what he didnt but now he is abusing you yeah its time to get out and dont let that knowing he is a cop scare you there is alot of crooked cops out there so just have proof of everything and dont believe nothing that comes out of his mouth and get help FAST.....GOOD LUCK..
Reply:LEAVE before you sink into a hole that you cannot get out of. It is not worth the abuse and the pain..You are worth much more than that. GOOD LUCK!!
Reply:If any one of these things happened, I would leave him.





Because they have all happened, I think you should leave and also report him. Possibly you can speak to a different police department.





No one should have to live like this.
Reply:what were you thinkin anyways of marrying a popo..aka PIG...that should tell you everyting...
Reply:walk to door...open door...walk out of door...leave...go to payphone...call police...
Reply:Move out. Get your family to help you. This guy is psychotic and destroying you emotionally. He's not really a man.
Reply:Run... hard and fast..family or friends can help..
Reply:You are with a control freak and letting yourself slide down in to a dark place. PLEASE get help and get out. You are worthy of a real life and a real love. Don't let him destroy you and don't let you destroy yourself, little sister!!
Reply:You know that you need to get away from this monster, and you are looking for supporters. WE are all supporters here. Go to a safe place like your family or friends of yours and then make an appointment with a lawyer and also you need to get him off the force and fired from his job. He is a punk and needs to go to jail. Don't be afraid so much that it keeps you from making these calls. He is a dangerous person and will stop at nothing. LEAVE before he kills you.....
Reply:I agree with everyone else you MUST LEAVE IMMEDIATELY. Go straight to your family and friends you need all the support and strength they can offer to help you in being strong to move through this. Get legal advice immediately and with the support of your family and friends start taking action to move forward in your life. As for the women who he is having the affair with please make sure if she is aware of his relationship with you as he could be lieing to her as well and become his next victim. Please leave now while you still have a life to live for if you stay you may just be robbed of this. You have already proven that you are strong to stay and put up with this from him, it's now time to be strong and show him you won't tolerate it any more by leaving.
Reply:Report Abuse!!! This is serious. You must leave him at once!
Reply:My Grandmother all ways told me, 'if a man ever hit you, girl run like hell and don't look back', and I am saying the same to you. If you love yourself then just start running; cause darling one unexpected blow and you could be dead. Take our advice and RUN LIKE HELL!!!!!


You can do this so don't doubt yourself. Life will go on and it will be beautiful make that move and you will see.





With warm Love
Reply:go have an affair
Reply:Time to get out, love. Get some counselling pronto. And call the cops. Just because he is one himself doesn't give him any special protection under the law. Where I live, cops have been charged and found guilty of stalking and abusive behaviour. Get help now.
Reply:GET OUT NOW ! ! ! ! ! ! ! Just leave and go to your parents, friends, police,(doesn't matter if he's an officer). Go to a lawyer get a divorce, and hide out if you have to, do whatever it takes but GET OUT NOW ! ! ! !
Reply:Bad Boy, Bad Boy, whatcha gonna do whatcha gonna do when they come for you.


If you think about it, he has committed a love crime so to speak.
Reply:girl please... you need to dump him and get a pitbull and a gun. Call the cops FIRST. Damn that he is one.... no cop likes a woman beater. Make sure that you take pics of your bruises, and PRESS CHARGES. Dont believe the " baby Im sorry" bull crap. You have to think about YOU not him. If he is doing these things to you ITS NOT LOVE, its control. get out while your still breathing.
Reply:HE IS NOT INTO YOU!!! Please leave him as soon as possible for your own dignity. He'll never change for the better, how can you still have hope for a person that only know how to hurt you. PLEASE build up your own STRENGTH and move on, you still have a bright future ahead. Just put the past behind you. I know it's easier to say then do. But, you need to somehow move on!! Please seek help from the nearest counsel body.
Reply:Get out of that situation, go to family or friends, or even a shelter but get out!