My grandfather passed away today. His birthday was March 19th. He turned 86. I know I sent him and my grandmother a cheer up/get well card a couple weeks ago...and just this past Sunday, I sent him and my grandmother an Easter card with pictures in it that I took with my new camera. He taught me a lot about photography and I wanted to share my latest work with him!! I miss him veryyy much!!!!!!!!!
I'm feeling VERY guitly! My grandfather who was in the hospital %26amp; nursing home for the past 2 years has?
I know he enjoyed seeing the pictures and the wonderful relationship you had with him. You really should feel proud, not guilty, that you were such a good grandchild. Even though you miss him, he and his photography lessons will always be with you.
Reply:My sincere condolences on the passing of your grandfather. Photography is an excellent skill to have. Fun to do too! It sounds like you were rather close to him. I'm sorry you didn't get to show him your latest work. Please don't feel guilty about it. There is a chance he got to see the pictures before he passed away. Depending on the mail and all. I'm glad you got to have time with your grandfather. There are people who don't have that blessing of the opportunity to. My father enjoyed photography, so do I. He passed away awhile back, and one day I was riding in a car with a friend, and I saw some scenery I would have enjoyed getting a picture of, to share with him. Then I remembered he had passed away. There may be moments like that for you to have, but please continue taking pictures. I wish you the best. Take care.
Reply:As long as you remember him and think of him from time to time,he'll be there for you. I lost my Dad last year and I still catch myself trying to call him to ask his help with a crossword puzzle question. (He was a whiz at those things..) I recently got a promotion and I really wish he was here to see it. But I know he knows and some how I believe he had a part in it. So no guilt, no regrets, keep talking to him...he hears. Sorry for your loss sweetheart.
Reply:You have my sympathy for your loss. I only like one of my grandfathers but he can't really do anything physical anymore. My other grandfather is a pain in the butt.
Anyway, based on you're question, I think you learned something very valuable. This is something I learned when my chocolate melted in my pocket:
Always use it while you can. You might not be able to use it later so use it sooner sometimes than you plan to.
This is just like my chocolate. I wanted to save it in my pocket, but it melted and I should have eaten it sooner. If I place a chocolate bar in the freezer and save it for a little while, my dad or stupid brother will eat it.
This may not be the best answer you have, but that's a good lesson to learn from this.
Reply:Why are you feeling guilty?
Reply:its not your fault. youve enjoyed your expieriences with him while he was alive. he wouldnt want you to wallow in sorrow for a long time. have time to greive but after a while, whenever you FEEL like it, move on.
Reply:Im sorry about your loss. If you were somewhat close to him and you're sure he knows that, then you should not feel guilty. 86 is very old to me. My grandparents did not live that long.
Reply:i'm really sorry but i'm not understanding the guilt. you seem like you were giving them your thoughts and best wishes, what more can you do?
Reply:Ive worked in several nursing homes in my days and i have cared for many folks that didn't have any family that visited nor any kind of cards hanging on their walls. be grateful that you you participated in sending cards and visited when you could. grandparents are like wise old owls they know how busy peoples lives can be, especially at a young age. death is a hard pill to swallow for young adults. accept that he lived a full and complete life and it was time to go to the next level. talk and be there for your grandma during this time of sorrow....take care
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