Nicknames...let it go?

My husband %26amp; I have our 3rd baby, James, on Jan 27. I wanted him to be called James since I'm really not a big fan of any of the nicknames for the name. My mother though has a thing about calling people by their full name (says it's too proper??) and started to call the baby Jamie. Now the whole family has caught on and I'm getting personalized gifts and Easter cards that say Jamie on them and...I'm just not all that crazy about it :(.


I know there are BY FAR more horrible things in the world, but the name Jamie just bothers me at this point in time.


Should I say something or just ignore it?

Nicknames...let it go?
My mother drives me nuts with that too. My husbands name is Mike, but she has always referred to him as Michael ( regardless of our requests). So now we have a son that we want to call Michael and she calls him Mikey.





It annoys me. But in time it is playing out as when she calls for "Michael" to come help her with something, she gets a pesky one year old in the kitchen with her instead of my husband.





I would mention it to you mom and see how it goes, but really it is just a passive-aggressive way to stay in charge and she probably will not let it go. I would tell others you don't like Jaime or Jimmy. If you tell them once, I bet word will spread among friends and family.
Reply:You can certainly say something but, when it comes right down to it you are ultimately not going to have that much control over obvious kinds of nicknames like Jamie when the kid's name is James. I hate to tell you but you would have been better off naming the kid something else if you feel strongly about not liking some of the common nicknames. You can certainly tell relatives how you feel but the kid may end up getting called Jamie by enough others anyway and then your relatives won't be too pleased about having been confronted by you on the topic. I think you have to chalk this one up to experience and know not to name the next kid Victoria if you don't like Vicky.
Reply:i have a niki name it lucy recardo because i do jokes like her and have red hair too but not red red
Reply:For heaven's sake, say something. Tell your mother that you named your child James and that is what you want him to be called. If she can't respect your wishes, tell her you'll teach him to call her Aunt Joan instead of Grandma.
Reply:no offence but jamie sounds more like a girls name just tell her its queer and not to call him that. i think james is awsome name.
Reply:if it really bothers u then say it but nicknames just happen, u cant really pick them
Reply:Then make your own nick name for him





like


Baby Boy or Baby James


or something that he does a lot


like my little cousin was born with a patch of hair at the tippie top of his head so my aunt started calling him " Top Notch"





Or just tell your Mom an Husband how you feel


or just become quiet about it but when he grows up give him the funny details an memories of the name 'Jamie"





it's be okay it really will





Congrats on your Baby James :)
Reply:You have a right to speak up. This is your child, and while a "friendly" nickname may be well intended, if it offends you politely ask them to address him by James. Thank them for their understanding and remember to be firm but polite.
Reply:I spent years correcting people when they called my daughter Sam, Sammy, when she was little. Hated then...don't mind so much now. I now do it with people when they call my son, Jake, Jacob. I correct adults and family members but I don't correct my son's friends. That's his job. If you say something and really make an effort, they'll, or at least SHOULD, respect your wishes until the child is old enough to say something themselves.


Tell people you want the baby to be called James and any presents that are personalied to say the same too. Maybe down the road you won't mind the nickname Jamie. Who knows ;)


good luck and congrats!
Reply:Say something. You picked the name because you wanted him called James. There's nothing wrong with asking for what you want. Put the word out that anything engraved with Jamie will be thoughtfully donated to charity.





I don't think you are being selfish! You will regret it if you just ignore it.
Reply:You had to have known this would happen. I'm not trying to say that your family is right- because quite frankly I think they are being rude and disrespectful- but when you choose a name like James that is typically shortened you sorta have to expect that people are going to take the liberty to do that. Unfortunately the name is given and you should call him by his proper name but you can't control other people.


As the baby gets older and everyone hears you call him "James" they hopefully will catch on.
Reply:Families always give kids nicknames, just live with it. You can call him James, but in the end he will decide what people call him. Do not say anything to the family, it will just upset them and cause drama.
Reply:Oh, how silly your mom is being! James is what's on his birth certificate; why not call him by his full name? Not to mention that I love the name James. My son has a name that is often shortened, but we decided when he was born to call him by his full name. I got very tired of hearing him be called Matt* and Matty* when his name is Matthew*. I made it clear to everyone that they would either call him by his given name, or not call him anything. Parents choose a name for their child that is special to them, and it's a bit insulting to change what the child is called against the parents' will. Insist that your mom and others call your son what you want him to be called, or that they call him nothing. Good luck.
Reply:that is your baby the name you gave him i wouldnt ignore this problem. if you are uncomfortable with it you should tell them. i do agree with you though i like james for a name it a boys name but jamie sounds a little unusual. but you should talk to your family and tell them how this is making you feel or you wouldnt be happy.
Reply:Its YOUR child not theirs! SPEAK UP AND TALK TO THEM ABOUT IT!! Or maybe you should let James decide if he wants to be called James or Jamie.
Reply:we specifically chose names you could not make a nickname for-----Julia and Natalie-----and wouldn't you know Julia turned into JuJu Bean or Jewel and Natalie turned into GIZZY.





GO FIGURE! Just as long as you always set the example by calling him James.
Reply:Tell her that you would like the baby to go my his real name so he won't get confussed when he is older.
Reply:I know how you fell. My 8yr son's name is Steven and that's what I call him. I HATE the nicknames Steve, Stevie etc but that's what his friends and some family members call him. I correct family by then saying, "Steven________.", but friends...whatever.


For the personalized things, I would just tell people to have it say the name you want. Putting Jamie in that situation is rude after being told not to. As for him being called Jamie, say something but in the end...just gonna have to let it go. Nicknames come with the name :\


Congrats though!


Best Wishes =]
Reply:it's something that life has thrown at you that you will have to find peace with.





with family members it's okay to tell them that you would prefer they use the name you chose, not a nickname.





but other then that, you'll just have to let it go...