How do I handle my relationship with my 12 yo step son after is mother and I are divorced?

He has always said that I am his best friend. he has made christmas/easter/valentines day cards for me and not for either of his parents. In school when asked to wite about his hero he wrote about me. I love him to death and hate to see him left with just his parents who are both unstable on some level.

How do I handle my relationship with my 12 yo step son after is mother and I are divorced?
Continue to stay in his life. He will need you. He is 12 and if he wants to continue seeing you he should be able to decide. He is certainly old enough. Be there as much as you have always been. He needs you and will miss you.
Reply:All u can do is be there for him.See him as much as u can.It sounds like u are the only stable thing in his life. So just keep it up.Good luck
Reply:if you are able to continue to have a relationship with him do so it will me so much to him... even if it is somewhat uncomfortable for you.... even if it is just keeping in contact through e-mail, letters. phone,


good luck!
Reply:Just always be there for him. Let him know that if he needs you you will be there. You can't do anything much more than that. I wish you the best with this.
Reply:have a talk with your ex. tell her you still want to be a part of your step son's life. he looks up to you and it would not be fair to just walk away from him. maybe ya'll could come up with a vistiation plan.
Reply:Step one is to get the mom's permission to have ongoing contact with him. If you two are in combat she could legally prevent you from having contact with him.





If she does OK continued contact with him make sure there is agreement with her about how that's done. She may be initially restrictive but loosen up if everything goes ok.





Finally no matter how difficult she is never bad-mouth her to her kid. I know you will be sorely tempted but if you are truely wanting to maintain a relationship with him that will be positive you must do that.





Beyond that don't act any different with him, be dependable and constant with him. Make your time with him less stressful, not more stressful, by staying out of inevidable conflicts between everyone else in his life.
Reply:Its great that you have this close relationship with him.I think it would be a terrible loss to both of you to end it.You will most likely find that he will become a better man if the 2 of you keep in touch.There are so many kids out there today that need someone to talk to and be a mentor to them.The sad thing is alot of parents don't take enough time to be that person.Hold your head high and show this young man what a real father figure should be.
Reply:I know of people who have stayed in touch with their step parents even after the divorce. He is a minor and his mom will be running his life for a while now, but as long as she still lets you play a role, don't step out of this child's life.
Reply:Continue to have a relationship with him if his mother will let you. If she is a decent person at all, she will let you. He is at a rough age and if you are not a part of his life, it could be devastating for him. Good luck!
Reply:Continue The Relationship Wit Him If His Parents Don't Mind. It Seems Like U Love Him Like He's Ur Own And Spend Time WIt Him Take Him Places. B His Step Daddy No Matter Wat N If Ur Not Allowed 2 Spend Time Wit Him Now Wat Until U R And Make Up 4 Lost Times Don't Let Anything Get Between That.
Reply:u divorse wives not children