How would you respond?

This situation happened to my best friend and she is thinking of how best to respond. She is getting married to this man she has been dating for the past four years. This one particular female friend of his (for 20 years) never liked my best friend but they try to be civil around one another.





Anyway, during Easter she had an Easter Egg Hunt for the kids in her home. During the egg hunt, the woman gave out Easter cards to the adults. She said that she had been going through boxes of old photos and made a bunch of copies for everyone and thought she would use this opportunity to pass them out. When they got to the car, he opened up the card to see old photos. In the card was about five photos of him and his ex-fiance. On the back of each photo she wrote little sayings “You and Nikki right after the engagement party. What a lovely couple” “Remember this? Good times” And she addressed the card to him and to my best friend.





Needless to say my best friend is feeling really ticked off and doesn’t know how to respond. Her fiance was turned off by the whole thing and decided that he doesn’t want that kind of friendship anymore but my best friend doesn’t think giving up a 20 year old relationship is the right answer. She thinks they should all talk it out. How would you respond?

How would you respond?
I would of whipped out a can of WHOOP-AZZ on this so-called "friend"....that is for sure!





How low class can a person be? I mean seriously!
Reply:I would talk it out with the fiancé. What this so-called "friend" did is a slap in the face, and I would treat it as such. I agree that throwing out a 20-year-old friendship is not a decision to be made lightly, but if this "friend" slaps a woman you love in the face, you really need to choose between them. Sounds like the guy is making the right choice by sticking with his fiancé.





It's one thing to pass these photos to the person privately, but it's a whole another matter to be so deliberate in your tactlessness. If a friend did this to me, they most likely wouldn't be a friend anymore - I simply would not be comfortable around them.
Reply:It was worse than thoughtless what she did. She might have been a great friend but she has left that job for a new job. *****.





It doesn't matter why but her boyfriend's reaction, leaving it all behind souinds good.





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Reply:I think she is very lucky that he looked at things objectively and didn't try to make lame excuses for his friend's rudeness. I think your friend would be wise to follow his lead in cutting off that friendship. After all, nobody would go to those lengths just because they didn't like his fiancee. She has other motives - more selfish motives where he is concerned. He probably knows that deep down there is more to it and he wants it to stop. Why would she want to encourage having such a toxic person in their life?? I think she is asking for trouble by having this woman around. I wouldn't be surprised if she pulled the same crap on Nikki when she was in the picture.
Reply:I MOST DEFINITLY agree with giving up the friendship. That was wayyyyy TOO far to go. That woman crossed a serious line. If the fiance is willing to dump that broad, then your friend should let him. He is taking a stand and he is right!
Reply:If she was his pal of 20 years and he's angry enough to end it than tell your friend to stay out of it. He's made the decision and frankly that was more than a backhanded comment at your friend.





And with 'friends' like that who needs enemies? You can bet that if the friendship continues this woman will do things purposely to target your pal. I would guess even to the point of telling him that your friend is screwing around on her soon to be hubby. Never put something like that past someone who took the time to do something like this little comedy she pulled.





You're dealing with a rattlesnake here. Let the guy end the friendship.
Reply:If I were you I would stay out of it
Reply:Naw the boyfriend is dealing with it the way it should be....She is not excepting the relationship between him and your friend and probably never will and he knows it... So he is dumping her as a friend....Tell her just to fallow her boy toys lead he knows this person better than her and he knows how to handle it....
Reply:Wow, that is bold and nasty. I don't think he should dump her as a friend (your friend is a VERY understanding person). But he does have to put is foot down big time and tell her that if she can't respect his future wife and his life then he will not be able to continue being her friend.





That was a really disrespectful thing she did.
Reply:I would talk it out..
Reply:He has decided that the relationship with the friend of 20 years is toxic. And he has chosen to cut the toxicity out of his life. I say Good for Him and she needs to let him do that.
Reply:i definitely would not give up on a 20 year friendship that's just rediculous...I would sit down, your friend, her fiance, and the best friend and discuss the situation to its entirety...but the fiance is the one that really needs to be doing all of the talking...He needs to set a limit and let his friend know that you may not like my fiance but you will respect her and then if she refuses to do that then i can understand straying away from this friendship...if she can't put those little differences aside she really wasn't a friend to begin with...she was just a nice person that stuck around for 2decades:)
Reply:let thedm meet for a coffe and talk things over...but that was rude of her to give them those old photos...I don't think I could ever like that person ..nor want to be friends with her anymore...
Reply:maybe she's just really ticked off that she couldn't seduce the friend's fiance last week like she did with the old bf.
Reply:I would say that all three of them need to discuss this, and see what his b.f.'s stupid problem is, it is a long friendship so the three should talk it out, BUT sounds to me that after the discussion he should try to keep his distance and focus on his new marriage and new life.
Reply:Get rid of that person! That is NO friend! A real friend would NEVER do something so horrible and tacky. I admire that the guy was offended too! That part is cool if true.


NO do not talk it out with the skank. Your friend and her fiance are MUCH better off without her in their life. She will always cause trouble if she is around. Why would your friend want trouble in her new life?
Reply:Thats harsh! All 3 should sit down and lay down how they feel. If his "best friend" doesn't want to be happy for him then I agree get rid of the friend. 20 years of friendship is what the "best friend" should consider, not your friend. She is getting married and this his their life now. What kind of friend is this girl, she has issues and I would let her go, DRAMA is what it sounds like she is creating and no one likes drama. Good for him to stand beside his girl and good for her for being the bigger person!!!! *****
Reply:well tell your best friend she is being the bigger person and that i know she thinks that if her husband stops the friendship it will be because of her and that the female friend will blame her and that will make your friend look like the bad person but if her husband feels that it wasn't right for her to do that because it can start problems with him and your friend and we all know guys really don't like drama and he wants to respected his wife so the best thing i can say is that they all sit down and tell her that what she is doing isn't right and it is not making the two of them happy and if she doesn't respected his wishes then she wasn't that good of a friend in the first place and that they should cut their loses
Reply:That's really petty and stupid...she just made herself look like an idiot.





I'd do nothing and just let her wallow in her own stupidity.
Reply:wot a f*u*c*k*i*n*g slimy w*h*o*r*e is that so called friend of his.





I think her guy is super sweet to end the friendship..
Reply:He's right. If I had a friend who couldn't accept the fact that I'm with the person I'm with. Then there really isn't a decision to make. She's making it for him. I would tell her though and give her the chance to back off. Maybe just tell her that he enjoys being her friend but if she keeps acting like this he will be forced to end their friendship. Then it's her decision on what happens next.
Reply:You are so good to care so much for your friends..
Reply:I would leave it up to him. It is his friendship, and if he felt betrayed by her immature and cruel acts it's up to him to decide if he wishes to continue the friendship. great to hear that he stuck to his guns and Was offended by these photos w/captions on the back. Sounds like he is True to your best friend and that is awesome!!! Kudos to him!!
Reply:Stay out of their business!
Reply:It really isn't your place, but you should support your best friends finance. She is going to be his wife, that means he is loyal to her now. What his friend did is disrespectful of their relationship and disrespectful of her. He should not continue a relationship with this woman.
Reply:Wow... I would figure it would be your best friend saying they should end it and her bf that was wanting to stay friends. If that was me I would be telling him to drop her... because obvioiusly she is wanting to make your best friend jealous and bring up old feelings about his ex-fiancee. She must like the ex better than your best friend that's for sure. I guess they could try to talk it out... but like isaid I would want him to drop her... or at least take a break from each other before talking about it.
Reply:If they can then I don't see any harm in talking it out. 20 years is a long relationship to just kind of dump. But he has to be willing to do it and so does she. That person owes his fiance an apology big time. What a wench. I don't blame him for being angry. Maybe he needs some time to calm down.