Should I let him into my son's life?

My son's biological father has never seen him. My son is now 20 months old. Today, we received a package from his father for Easter. Inside the card it said "Hope to see you very soon. I love you, Daddy." Should I let his father be in my son's life? There are a lot of issues between the two of us, which is why we are not together. Maybe someone who has been, or is in, a similar situation could give me some advice. I definitely need it.

Should I let him into my son's life?
Yes, if he is wanting to be a father to his son let him. Your son deserves that. Also let the father know with fatherhood comes responsibility. He will have to pay child support if he is not already. Get things done through court. First thing is paternity rights. If you have not already done this the baby is as much his as yours. These are very important things you need to check on but yes let him be a father. Good Luck
Reply:Actually, if he's the biological father, he has a right to see the boy ... whether you like it or not. If you deny him this right, he could take you to court. It's best to try to work it out amicably because he is going to be in your life and your son's life for a loooooong time. If you feel your son's safety would be in jeopardy when he's around his father, then you should consult an attorney and see if you can make it where he only has supervised visitation.
Reply:If he is the biological father, he does have the right to see the child. And hey maybe seeing his child is just what he needs. You are only making it worse by waiting later to let the boy know who his father is.





Since it's been x amount of time, he may have cooled down since then. Assuming that it has been almost 2 years since you have seen him.
Reply:The father should be in the babys life. Is he paying child support? He can take you to court and get them to make sure he see him. But all from that when your child grows up he will want to see his father. AND MOST LIKELY HATE YOU FOR KEEPING HIM AWAY FROM HIM. There must of been love there when you two made the baby so why can't you get along so he can be really happy. What's it going to do besides seeing the man you hate so much. I went thru this with my kids and I just invited my x wife to be with us on all the holladays. and now that the kids are all grown My wife and my x are the best of friends but it took a lot of work on my part.
Reply:Ya. It's his FATHER.
Reply:what happen between you and your ex has nothing do with your son. your son has the right to have a relationship with his father.
Reply:Yeah, you can try and resolve tensions.
Reply:im in a similar situation. my child's father wants to be a part of her life after 4yrs. he has a pretty crappy excuse for not bein around. his mother still sees her so she tells my little girl all about him. so my lil one knows he exist. so im thinking of letting him see her and see how things work out. i know theres alot of what ifs but you never know till you try. well its not the greatest answer but just letting you know your not alone.
Reply:I think you should its the better for him and he needs a daddy after all he is a boy
Reply:Did you agree on something? like how often he can see him? did you go to court on who will take care of him?or he just don't see him because he has some problems with law or something???Is there anything that he can't see him?


If you two are not together and have issues, you should figure it out. His dad should be in his life. Just be carefull, if you're worried, that he doesn't take him away from you, that's why I'm asking if you went to the court for parenting.


Update with some more info...


But his dad should be in his life.
Reply:HE has every right to come see your son whatever the problem is between u guys...don't forget once in a blue moon u two were together and fell in love with each and made this precious child....Just try to make the best of it and you never know, i have seen where children actually make their parents turn out for the better!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And you never can know what can happen next between yall!
Reply:I normally would say yes. However, based on the details you provided, I'm going to say no. If he has no interest in supporting his child for 20 months, he doesn't deserve the title of Daddy. I would petition to have his rights terminated. As sad as it is, I think it's better for a child to have no father at all than one who's no good.
Reply:When I was a year old my father left us. He didn't try hard to get in my life and it hurt me. I first met him at 18 years old and still, at 40 today have issues with it. I have learned that my mother has played a part in keeping him away. That hurt me too.





It sounds as if the daddy has done some soul searching and is ready to step up to his responsibility. Please let him be there for his son! Promote it! and make sure that you don't argue in front of the child. It will be difficult at first, but if he is the daddy to your child that he is supposed to be , then you will all be better off.
Reply:i would get a lawyer sounds like he is up to something
Reply:not if he is a violent or dangerous person----------ever


if he has been involved in drugs---------not without a clean slate or at least have it supervised.


other than that you need to try to work out a non- angerbased parent to parent relationship.


he needs to be supporting the child on a regular basis as well as sending extra things. but you need to not be emotionally entwined with him.