My adult son has a girlfriend, who has two small children, we get along just fine. Is it OK?

if I send the children, a St. Patrick's Day card with a few bucks in it? The same for Easter etc.

My adult son has a girlfriend, who has two small children, we get along just fine. Is it OK?
That would be really sweet from your part.
Reply:Deffinatly ok.


but personally, i'd like to get st patty's day stickers or a pin or soemthing like that with my card... if i was a kid, but it depends on how old they are.


Money is fine, i have two children and i'm a single mom, so if I had a boyfriend who's mother wanted to send my kids card with money or a small gift it wouldnt bother me at all.. It would make me feel welcome and accepted to the family.





if i were you i'd just touch the topic with your son because everyone is different you wouldnt want to offend her... but i dont think you would at all!





Happy St Patrick's Day
Reply:Sounds OK to me, I'll even take one gracefully!
Reply:If you like the girlfriend and her children's that would be nice to send them cards for the holiday.
Reply:I think it would be fine. I have a 2 year old son and am now dating this guy that is in the army. His mother sent my son and myself "care packages" and it was so cool. I was really thinkfull for it. It meant so much to me when I opened it and see what it was and who it was from. So I think that it would be fine for you to send a card to them. I think that it would mean a lot to the girlfriend and the kids. :)
Reply:Sure, why wouldn't it be?
Reply:It is very OK :) until it isn't :)


just kidding... anyway if they are happy enjoying they relationship, which is most important, you dont have to bother, you just have to mind your own business... other way if it goes wrong guess who'll be the "bad guy"... of course- YOU.


You can give some advice to your son, if he ask for it, but nothing more... I guess he's an adult person, who can decide for himself, he's not your little boy anymore :) cause I know how I feel when my mom is "obsessed" with me :)





So my conclusion is: When he's happy, you should be happy too and you should support his decisions... and when he feels bad you should be by his side to help him feel better :)


well I guess you know all that :) but the problem is that the Mothers sometimes act following they heart, when they need they brain.





I wish you all the happiness in the world...





sincerely by


ME











p.s. sorry I read only the topic, i hope u dont mind to hear my opinion about that issue :)





anyway i think that some other gift would be received better, cause some people may not understood your real reason for it :) it may offend them... it depends on the person of course


BTW, I meant abouth the bucks... the card would be great :)
Reply:yeah it's perfecly fine but not trying to be mean but don't put to much because they will want more ad more but it's fine just don't spoil them too much. GOD BLESSS U
Reply:I think that is a really sweet thoughtful thing to do! But instead of Money, I would send a little something marking the holiday. Small children like PRESENTS!! (They like money too, but some people are funny about money and might take it the wrong way.)
Reply:yeah very sweet of u
Reply:Send a card and a nice present. No money.
Reply:I would but thats comin from a kid i never got stuff like that when i was growin up and it would of made me feel a whole lot more special even if it dont have no money in it
Reply:Yeah thats ok, but you don't want to give the kids the impression that you'll always buy them stuff. How long has your sone been dating her? If its been awhile and you've actually spent time with them, then its ok.
Reply:Absolutely. Not only would the kids love it, it would be a great gesture to show your acceptance of and care for the children. even though they are not your biological grandchildren. That's a very kind gesture.
Reply:Of course it is. It's a nice gesture. The kids will love it and it will let the girlfriend know that you accept not only her but her children also.
Reply:i would think so. if your not sure ask your boy what he thinks instead of a bunch of strangers.
Reply:I think it is a wonderful, sweet thing to do. Kids love getting mail, especially mail with cards and money inside. You will become as popular as Santa Clause the next time you see them.
Reply:I guess it depends on how good their relationship is. And it depends on how the mom is. Over-analyzing: I think it'd be kinda awkward if you did that and they broke up. It might put the mom in a weird position about letting her children accept money from someone not really in the family... and might make her think about her financial situation. -OR- It might be perfectly fine, and there's nothing at all to worry about. If it's just, like, $5 each kid... you're pretty close to them... they come over for family events... then it sounds okay to me.
Reply:Yes Ithink it would be a good thing for you to forge that relationship with them if your daughter has a serious relationship with him...