Im 37. My girlfriend sent my an easter e-card but it was for a person named Brad.?

I asked her who Brad is and she said she sent it to me to see if id get jelous then she would know i care. I knew she ws lieing then she admitted its a man that has a store here in town she met a long time ago and hes married with kids. Would u leave it at that or go to the store andcheck for a wedding band onhis finger?

Im 37. My girlfriend sent my an easter e-card but it was for a person named Brad.?
mmmm thats a strange one. I know personally I would have to check, but I would advise people not to!
Reply:Go to the store and, first of all, check if he even works there. If he does go and talk to him and ask him if he knows your girlfriend (but don't say she's your girlfriend). Be really nice too and don't act mad or anxious.
Reply:she's a lying **** and she's cheating on you. run for the hills.
Reply:Why would any one want to do that to someone else, just to see if they'd get jealous? Jesus, grow up already. I'd be asking myself if she is really worth it. Besides jealousy, now you've got trust issues. On fourth and long, I'd punt.
Reply:Yes if I were you i'd be upset. You should go to where he works and act like a customer. It wouldn't suprise me if you find an engagement ring on his hand. It happened to my mom, she had been dating this one guy for a year and he proposed. Couple weeks later she found out that he was dating someone else and her at the same time. It's worth it to check.
Reply:i wouldn't necessarily say this is a deal-breaker, but she no.1 did something behind your back, no.2 lied to cover it up. look at the rest of your relationship, be honest, do other things not "add up". it makes a difference too how advanced your relationship is, if you've gone out 3 times i don't think she is required to get rid of all relationships with males. if you guys are engaged, or close this is looking pretty bad.


what difference does the wedding band make? some people it does not matter.
Reply:check it out.
Reply:I'd do something more productive and either:


A. break up with her because she's probably lied about more than this to you, and I wouldn't want to be with a guy who was cheating on me(if they were 'just friends' she wouldn't have lied in the first place about the ecard), or


B. seek some couple's counseling, if you really care about her.





Your choice but good luck to the both of you.
Reply:Unless it was all lovey dovey just forget it but just be sure that you trust her and tell her that lieing will make you want to leave her, Dont lower yourself to checking it out unless you have something more
Reply:Oh my, she sent it to the wrong person. You'd better believe it...she's got a guy on the side. I feel bad for you because she's obviously playing two guys. Leave her move on and find someone else.
Reply:I dont think so. My impression is that she may not be the sharpest knife in the drawer, for the following reasons:





She screwed up and %26amp; sent it to you by mistake.


This makes her a liar....


Which indicates lack of morals, integrity, and respect.


...Not to mention un-trustworthy.


Is any of this worth your time and attention.......when you deserve someone who would/could actually care for YOU, and your feelings???
Reply:I would dump her as* that's what I would do. She's using you while she's waiting for someone else.
Reply:i would say drop it....you have to decide whether you want to stay with someone that you do not trust.....if you go to the store and there is or is not a brad...then what.
Reply:Wow, what a dumb mystake from her..


I'd go and check on.
Reply:she got caught slipping... does it really matter if he's actually married? he could be a cheater too.
Reply:wow thats harsh. I'd check if i was suspicous and then again if she's not that kind of person who would lie like that i wouldn't bother
Reply:I guess I would have to go down to his store and get a look at this guy. Then casually strike up a conversation with him to find out if he's really married. Was the Easter card romantic?
Reply:- Eh, Just leave it alone.. Because if you go to check, your girlfriend could get angry.. Personally, it sounds a little shady so keep an eye out..


Just let her think you believe her, and if she's lieing, I'm sure she would feel guilty- and the truth would spill ;]
Reply:even if she says it's innocent b/c he's married, that's not necessarily true. even if you go and you DO see a wedding band, it doesn't automatically make it a friendly ecard, he could be cheating on his wife.





i'd trust her if she didn't lie once already. the first thing was clearly a lie, good call.





depends what the card said, if it said "love" or "can't wait to see you" then it's bad news, obviously. if it said "hope all is well" or something generic, don't worry about it! (except the fact that she was nervous and lied to AVOID this whole suspicion, lol).
Reply:Does not matter if he has a ring or not, she lied to you and she is very likely having something going on with this person. Now you have to decide if she can be trusted in the future and even if there is a future.


Lots of people send out lots of cards for any Holiday, so getting the card with the wrong name on it did not mean anything UNTIL she lied about it....


If he is "just a friend" if you have been BF/GF for very long you should know her friends, at least the ones close enough to be getting special greeting cards....
Reply:I'd absolutely lose my freagin' mind. Are you kidding? I think it's time for a easter breakup. Please and Thank You.
Reply:she's cheating on you.
Reply:SHE'S CHEATING ON YOU. Or wants to.
Reply:send her packing
Reply:go to him and ask him. then if he doesnt know about you, shes in trouble.
Reply:It depends on your personality and what you expect from a relationship?


Your girlfriend obviously is not interested in a monogamous relationship.


If that is alright with you, then you should do nothing and accept that your relationship is not exclusive.


However, if you are upset that your girlfriend is not devoted to you only, then you should do something.


But, here is where I disagree with your idea of going to see this man...


The problem is not with this other man, but with your girlfriend.


I would talk to the girlfriend about expectations and boundaries.


If you do not come to an agreement about mutual respect and values (which I do not see happening), then you should let her know that, and that you will be ...moving on.


There are many women 'out there' who will treat you as you justly deserve!


As far as the 'other man', leave him out of it. (If it wasn't him, it would be someone else).The problem is not with him, but your girlfriend.


No one is worth making allowances. Find a woman who puts you first!
Reply:shes gotta b lying but just to b safe


CHECK
Reply:ya. just go to the store, dont talk to the guy, and see if there is. dont start anything, just look
Reply:Definately check it out!!!!!
Reply:Oh...definitely check it out!!!
Reply:I wouldn't go that far as to going to the store to check if he has a wedding ring on. Not all people wear them, even when they are married. Especially if their older.





You should talk to your girlfriend about it, obviously she lied to you when you asked her who Brad was. So she's got to be hiding something.





Make sure you talk to her about it, don't go down there and do something you'll regret.





Good luck.