My husband %26amp; I have our 3rd baby, James, on Jan 27. I wanted him to be called James since I'm really not a big fan of any of the nicknames for the name. My mother though has a thing about calling people by their full name (says it's too proper??) and started to call the baby Jamie. Now the whole family has caught on and I'm getting personalized gifts and Easter cards that say Jamie on them and...I'm just not all that crazy about it :(.
I know there are BY FAR more horrible things in the world, but the name Jamie just bothers me at this point in time.
Should I say something or just ignore it?
Nicknames...let it go?
My mother drives me nuts with that too. My husbands name is Mike, but she has always referred to him as Michael ( regardless of our requests). So now we have a son that we want to call Michael and she calls him Mikey.
It annoys me. But in time it is playing out as when she calls for "Michael" to come help her with something, she gets a pesky one year old in the kitchen with her instead of my husband.
I would mention it to you mom and see how it goes, but really it is just a passive-aggressive way to stay in charge and she probably will not let it go. I would tell others you don't like Jaime or Jimmy. If you tell them once, I bet word will spread among friends and family.
Reply:You can certainly say something but, when it comes right down to it you are ultimately not going to have that much control over obvious kinds of nicknames like Jamie when the kid's name is James. I hate to tell you but you would have been better off naming the kid something else if you feel strongly about not liking some of the common nicknames. You can certainly tell relatives how you feel but the kid may end up getting called Jamie by enough others anyway and then your relatives won't be too pleased about having been confronted by you on the topic. I think you have to chalk this one up to experience and know not to name the next kid Victoria if you don't like Vicky.
Reply:i have a niki name it lucy recardo because i do jokes like her and have red hair too but not red red
Reply:For heaven's sake, say something. Tell your mother that you named your child James and that is what you want him to be called. If she can't respect your wishes, tell her you'll teach him to call her Aunt Joan instead of Grandma.
Reply:no offence but jamie sounds more like a girls name just tell her its queer and not to call him that. i think james is awsome name.
Reply:if it really bothers u then say it but nicknames just happen, u cant really pick them
Reply:Then make your own nick name for him
like
Baby Boy or Baby James
or something that he does a lot
like my little cousin was born with a patch of hair at the tippie top of his head so my aunt started calling him " Top Notch"
Or just tell your Mom an Husband how you feel
or just become quiet about it but when he grows up give him the funny details an memories of the name 'Jamie"
it's be okay it really will
Congrats on your Baby James :)
Reply:You have a right to speak up. This is your child, and while a "friendly" nickname may be well intended, if it offends you politely ask them to address him by James. Thank them for their understanding and remember to be firm but polite.
Reply:I spent years correcting people when they called my daughter Sam, Sammy, when she was little. Hated then...don't mind so much now. I now do it with people when they call my son, Jake, Jacob. I correct adults and family members but I don't correct my son's friends. That's his job. If you say something and really make an effort, they'll, or at least SHOULD, respect your wishes until the child is old enough to say something themselves.
Tell people you want the baby to be called James and any presents that are personalied to say the same too. Maybe down the road you won't mind the nickname Jamie. Who knows ;)
good luck and congrats!
Reply:Say something. You picked the name because you wanted him called James. There's nothing wrong with asking for what you want. Put the word out that anything engraved with Jamie will be thoughtfully donated to charity.
I don't think you are being selfish! You will regret it if you just ignore it.
Reply:You had to have known this would happen. I'm not trying to say that your family is right- because quite frankly I think they are being rude and disrespectful- but when you choose a name like James that is typically shortened you sorta have to expect that people are going to take the liberty to do that. Unfortunately the name is given and you should call him by his proper name but you can't control other people.
As the baby gets older and everyone hears you call him "James" they hopefully will catch on.
Reply:Families always give kids nicknames, just live with it. You can call him James, but in the end he will decide what people call him. Do not say anything to the family, it will just upset them and cause drama.
Reply:Oh, how silly your mom is being! James is what's on his birth certificate; why not call him by his full name? Not to mention that I love the name James. My son has a name that is often shortened, but we decided when he was born to call him by his full name. I got very tired of hearing him be called Matt* and Matty* when his name is Matthew*. I made it clear to everyone that they would either call him by his given name, or not call him anything. Parents choose a name for their child that is special to them, and it's a bit insulting to change what the child is called against the parents' will. Insist that your mom and others call your son what you want him to be called, or that they call him nothing. Good luck.
Reply:that is your baby the name you gave him i wouldnt ignore this problem. if you are uncomfortable with it you should tell them. i do agree with you though i like james for a name it a boys name but jamie sounds a little unusual. but you should talk to your family and tell them how this is making you feel or you wouldnt be happy.
Reply:Its YOUR child not theirs! SPEAK UP AND TALK TO THEM ABOUT IT!! Or maybe you should let James decide if he wants to be called James or Jamie.
Reply:we specifically chose names you could not make a nickname for-----Julia and Natalie-----and wouldn't you know Julia turned into JuJu Bean or Jewel and Natalie turned into GIZZY.
GO FIGURE! Just as long as you always set the example by calling him James.
Reply:Tell her that you would like the baby to go my his real name so he won't get confussed when he is older.
Reply:I know how you fell. My 8yr son's name is Steven and that's what I call him. I HATE the nicknames Steve, Stevie etc but that's what his friends and some family members call him. I correct family by then saying, "Steven________.", but friends...whatever.
For the personalized things, I would just tell people to have it say the name you want. Putting Jamie in that situation is rude after being told not to. As for him being called Jamie, say something but in the end...just gonna have to let it go. Nicknames come with the name :\
Congrats though!
Best Wishes =]
Reply:it's something that life has thrown at you that you will have to find peace with.
with family members it's okay to tell them that you would prefer they use the name you chose, not a nickname.
but other then that, you'll just have to let it go...
Saturday, November 19, 2011
My 14 year old keeps defending her deadbeat/drug addicted dad?
My ex husband and I seperated 13 years ago. My daughter was 1. Since then, our house has been robbed several times, my tip money has been stolen (over the years), my childrens bank accounts have been emptied. Easter cards with money in them have been kept by dad. He refuses to pay child support.
I have re-married and had three more children. Ryan, our baby died last year of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. My ex-husband took up collections, and kept the money, never gave a penny to us. Two months after Ryan died, unfortunately, our house caught fire (electrical) and burned down. We lost everything and had no insurance. He took up another collection and kept everything. I was too much in shock to do anything.
Now, I am better (state of mind) and I am nailing him for child support and considering a civil suit against him.
My 14 year old is LIVID and tells me she hates me for doing this to her dad. She never even sees him?How can she view him as the victim because I am finally stepping up
My 14 year old keeps defending her deadbeat/drug addicted dad?
I work for a counselor and I have learned that someitmes children will take up for partents that are no good because the child thinks that it will make the parent love them. They believe that they can change them and make them see that they are not bad children. Kids tend to believe that they are the reason that there parents arent around. Tehy believe that they did something wrong. You may need to seek counseling for you daughter. She will one day see that it is not her fault and this will be when she needs you the most. Try to be there for her and let her do what she needs to do. Hope this helps. You are in my prayes.
Sweet Kacey
Reply:first of all, don't let your children know about what goes on in the court room. your the adult the parent and she is the child. children love both parents regardless of faults. if the father is telling her what's going on give her the best answer you can give by informing her it is an adult matter and the court handles that affair. that she needs not to worry everything is alright. hope this helps
Reply:OK so you married a liar, thief, con man and probably more and all you want to do is get your money back! Have his *** thrown in jail and let the state prove how evil this man is.
Now that you have moved on sit her down and show with facts how he cares nothing about her. If he did he would never have taken so much from her future. Give it time and be honest with her as to how you feel as well. The truth will set you free!
Reply:totally take all this to court, she is 14 she dont know better but this is a good time to teach her, take her to court have the judge talk to her. and maybe cousling too.
Reply:I AM A DAD,N I THINK ITS CAUSE SHE LOVES HIM AND MISSES HIM,,AND I THINK YOU SHOULDNT LET HER NO URE REAL FEELINGS ABOUT HER DAD,,EVEN THOUG HE IS A REAL LOOSER....BUT WHAT SHE DONT NO ITS NOT GOING TO HURT HER...PEACE N LOVE TO U N URE FAMILY...
Reply:Y are you letting him take the money??
TAKE HIS *** TO COURT!
Reply:I think she loves her dad, and the fact that she never sees him only makes her want him more. And she's still a little girl, and she wants her parents to be together. She's willing to forgive her father for what he did, and she sees what you're doing to her father as going against her wishes. She still loves her dad, you see. She believes that he loves her too, even if he may not, and that's all that matters to her.
You have to remember that she's still mostly a little girl, and she needs a father. She still looks up to her father, as all little girls do. You have to be patient with her.
I don't think bringing her to court is a good idea. It will only make her think that you're a cruel person.
Reply:i think she blames you for not seeing her dad that she's blinded by the other horrible things he's doing i was just like that. my dad was and is cheating on my mom and i kept defending him but now that i know the truth i dont do that anymore and the only reason that is, is because my mom was honest to me about what my dad was doing. if she has evidence of what her dad is doing she won't believe in him so much. show her, tell her she may get emotional but dont let that stop you.
Reply:Does your daughter know about the things you listed above that her father has done?? If not, then she definitely wouldn't understand. Either way, no matter what, this is her dad, and she will always want to stick up for him. My husband's father was terrible to him, and my husband is still (at 30 yrs old) wanting his father's approval. My brother's dad is abusive to women and a drug addict, but he wants to be like his dad, because he doesn't know any other dad. All children look up to their parents, and will defend them even in the light of negativity. I think you are doing the right thing, and in time, your daughter will have the maturity to understand the person her dad really is. Someone mentioned taking her to court with you, might not be a bad idea.
rain roots
I have re-married and had three more children. Ryan, our baby died last year of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. My ex-husband took up collections, and kept the money, never gave a penny to us. Two months after Ryan died, unfortunately, our house caught fire (electrical) and burned down. We lost everything and had no insurance. He took up another collection and kept everything. I was too much in shock to do anything.
Now, I am better (state of mind) and I am nailing him for child support and considering a civil suit against him.
My 14 year old is LIVID and tells me she hates me for doing this to her dad. She never even sees him?How can she view him as the victim because I am finally stepping up
My 14 year old keeps defending her deadbeat/drug addicted dad?
I work for a counselor and I have learned that someitmes children will take up for partents that are no good because the child thinks that it will make the parent love them. They believe that they can change them and make them see that they are not bad children. Kids tend to believe that they are the reason that there parents arent around. Tehy believe that they did something wrong. You may need to seek counseling for you daughter. She will one day see that it is not her fault and this will be when she needs you the most. Try to be there for her and let her do what she needs to do. Hope this helps. You are in my prayes.
Sweet Kacey
Reply:first of all, don't let your children know about what goes on in the court room. your the adult the parent and she is the child. children love both parents regardless of faults. if the father is telling her what's going on give her the best answer you can give by informing her it is an adult matter and the court handles that affair. that she needs not to worry everything is alright. hope this helps
Reply:OK so you married a liar, thief, con man and probably more and all you want to do is get your money back! Have his *** thrown in jail and let the state prove how evil this man is.
Now that you have moved on sit her down and show with facts how he cares nothing about her. If he did he would never have taken so much from her future. Give it time and be honest with her as to how you feel as well. The truth will set you free!
Reply:totally take all this to court, she is 14 she dont know better but this is a good time to teach her, take her to court have the judge talk to her. and maybe cousling too.
Reply:I AM A DAD,N I THINK ITS CAUSE SHE LOVES HIM AND MISSES HIM,,AND I THINK YOU SHOULDNT LET HER NO URE REAL FEELINGS ABOUT HER DAD,,EVEN THOUG HE IS A REAL LOOSER....BUT WHAT SHE DONT NO ITS NOT GOING TO HURT HER...PEACE N LOVE TO U N URE FAMILY...
Reply:Y are you letting him take the money??
TAKE HIS *** TO COURT!
Reply:I think she loves her dad, and the fact that she never sees him only makes her want him more. And she's still a little girl, and she wants her parents to be together. She's willing to forgive her father for what he did, and she sees what you're doing to her father as going against her wishes. She still loves her dad, you see. She believes that he loves her too, even if he may not, and that's all that matters to her.
You have to remember that she's still mostly a little girl, and she needs a father. She still looks up to her father, as all little girls do. You have to be patient with her.
I don't think bringing her to court is a good idea. It will only make her think that you're a cruel person.
Reply:i think she blames you for not seeing her dad that she's blinded by the other horrible things he's doing i was just like that. my dad was and is cheating on my mom and i kept defending him but now that i know the truth i dont do that anymore and the only reason that is, is because my mom was honest to me about what my dad was doing. if she has evidence of what her dad is doing she won't believe in him so much. show her, tell her she may get emotional but dont let that stop you.
Reply:Does your daughter know about the things you listed above that her father has done?? If not, then she definitely wouldn't understand. Either way, no matter what, this is her dad, and she will always want to stick up for him. My husband's father was terrible to him, and my husband is still (at 30 yrs old) wanting his father's approval. My brother's dad is abusive to women and a drug addict, but he wants to be like his dad, because he doesn't know any other dad. All children look up to their parents, and will defend them even in the light of negativity. I think you are doing the right thing, and in time, your daughter will have the maturity to understand the person her dad really is. Someone mentioned taking her to court with you, might not be a bad idea.
rain roots
Do they do delivery on easter days?
I bought something with my credit card in colorandflavorshop.com and they said they were going to deliver it with UPS but they did not tell me the time. I want them to deliver it before Saturday. What do you think?
Do they do delivery on easter days?
No there is no delivery on sunday and monday or tomorrow friday. But there is on saturday so fingers crossed it arrives them.
Happy easter
Reply:They probably won't delivery it on Easter because its a Sunday and a holiday
Reply:There is no mail on Sunday, so it won't come on Easter. You still have two days left (tomorrow and Saturday) so depending on when you ordered it, what you chose as the delivery option and what it is, hopefully it will come before Easter.
Do they do delivery on easter days?
No there is no delivery on sunday and monday or tomorrow friday. But there is on saturday so fingers crossed it arrives them.
Happy easter
Reply:They probably won't delivery it on Easter because its a Sunday and a holiday
Reply:There is no mail on Sunday, so it won't come on Easter. You still have two days left (tomorrow and Saturday) so depending on when you ordered it, what you chose as the delivery option and what it is, hopefully it will come before Easter.
Which is better?
I took some Easter pictures of my puppy today and was wondering which would be cutest to blow up and print out for Easter Cards?
One: http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=2poxkpj%26amp;...
Two: http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=2a7j0cj%26amp;...
Thanks a bunch.
Which is better?
Awww, they both made me smile! I think you could go with either, or half one and half the other. I think the second one wins by a tiny margin, though.
Reply:Personally I like the first on but if you have photoshop try to edit it by making the basket shorter in height! (trust me)
Reply:The second one....both so cute. Puppy is precious!
Reply:both are good,
but i guess number 2..
but on number 1,
i liike that the river/pond/water or whatever it is.
looks.
Reply:so adorable. i like both. he is soo cute!
Reply:they are both cute. I would crop the first one to try to center her a bit, and the second one I just love!
Reply:OMG....I'm a pug fanattic too!! I have 3 %26amp; they r wonderful!! UR puggie is ADORABLE...........I reallly like pic one!! Hard to choose, I know!! But they are hard to keep still 4 photos. I have to hold them in place then take the pic really fast!! It is a chore to do, so most of my shots are candid or action...lol....But it was great seeing another pug owner on here!! Once u have a pug u will never be w/out one =)
Reply:I liked the second one mostly. But they are both SOOO cute. You are so fournate to have that dog.
Reply:I like the second one, the expression is priceless, super cute.
One: http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=2poxkpj%26amp;...
Two: http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=2a7j0cj%26amp;...
Thanks a bunch.
Which is better?
Awww, they both made me smile! I think you could go with either, or half one and half the other. I think the second one wins by a tiny margin, though.
Reply:Personally I like the first on but if you have photoshop try to edit it by making the basket shorter in height! (trust me)
Reply:The second one....both so cute. Puppy is precious!
Reply:both are good,
but i guess number 2..
but on number 1,
i liike that the river/pond/water or whatever it is.
looks.
Reply:so adorable. i like both. he is soo cute!
Reply:they are both cute. I would crop the first one to try to center her a bit, and the second one I just love!
Reply:OMG....I'm a pug fanattic too!! I have 3 %26amp; they r wonderful!! UR puggie is ADORABLE...........I reallly like pic one!! Hard to choose, I know!! But they are hard to keep still 4 photos. I have to hold them in place then take the pic really fast!! It is a chore to do, so most of my shots are candid or action...lol....But it was great seeing another pug owner on here!! Once u have a pug u will never be w/out one =)
Reply:I liked the second one mostly. But they are both SOOO cute. You are so fournate to have that dog.
Reply:I like the second one, the expression is priceless, super cute.
Should this rabbit consider itself lucky or unwanted......?
,,,, for not being in any Easter card?
Should this rabbit consider itself lucky or unwanted......?
lucky
you bring the lucky smile to everyone
Reply:thanks rabbit Report Abuse
Reply:Lucky
Reply:lucky totally...cause the rabbit is only to be seen by the special few... not for the normal eye =)
Reply:Lucky, because you are probably a very rare rabbit, not the model type one. Maybe National Geographic wants you for their cover. I sure hope to see you there some day, being so cute and rare. :)
Reply:You have already put it up on this global forum. Rather lucky!
Reply:i say lucky
Reply:luck for being your avatar
Reply:lucky. STOP BUNNY EXPLOITATION!!
Reply:lucky!
Reply:You should feel very lucky. We'd miss you if they took you away to be part of a card.
Reply:Lucky. The celebrity status of being in an Easter card would be the start of a long life of paparazzi and rehab!
Reply:lucky.
Should this rabbit consider itself lucky or unwanted......?
lucky
you bring the lucky smile to everyone
Reply:thanks rabbit Report Abuse
Reply:Lucky
Reply:lucky totally...cause the rabbit is only to be seen by the special few... not for the normal eye =)
Reply:Lucky, because you are probably a very rare rabbit, not the model type one. Maybe National Geographic wants you for their cover. I sure hope to see you there some day, being so cute and rare. :)
Reply:You have already put it up on this global forum. Rather lucky!
Reply:i say lucky
Reply:luck for being your avatar
Reply:lucky. STOP BUNNY EXPLOITATION!!
Reply:lucky!
Reply:You should feel very lucky. We'd miss you if they took you away to be part of a card.
Reply:Lucky. The celebrity status of being in an Easter card would be the start of a long life of paparazzi and rehab!
Reply:lucky.
Do you send?
easter cards..
Do you send?
No... do You?
Reply:noo
Reply:nah
Reply:no
Reply:No l don't.
Reply:nope I don't I'm too lazy to do that
Reply:aww no i always forget but my mum always sends out easter cards
Reply:Not until this year, sent one to my sister and one to my mum. Was buying thank you flowers from the florist and they looked cute. Definately waste of money but showing someone you care is an opportunity you shouldn't miss even if its just words not cards and gifts.
Reply:I send one.... to my Mother in law in New Zealand.
Reply:no way
Reply:No i don't they are a waste of money
Reply:No, I've never sent an Easter card before. I doubt I ever will either.
Reply:no, i dont.. im too busy
Reply:I used to before I had kids.
Reply:nope.... i never send any kind of cards....... unless they are e-cards.... i send text messages!
Reply:No. I don't even send Christmas cards.
Reply:No, only Valentine's :)
Reply:I do not.
Reply:no there a waste of money
Why do hotels always use white towels
Do you send?
No... do You?
Reply:noo
Reply:nah
Reply:no
Reply:No l don't.
Reply:nope I don't I'm too lazy to do that
Reply:aww no i always forget but my mum always sends out easter cards
Reply:Not until this year, sent one to my sister and one to my mum. Was buying thank you flowers from the florist and they looked cute. Definately waste of money but showing someone you care is an opportunity you shouldn't miss even if its just words not cards and gifts.
Reply:I send one.... to my Mother in law in New Zealand.
Reply:no way
Reply:No i don't they are a waste of money
Reply:No, I've never sent an Easter card before. I doubt I ever will either.
Reply:no, i dont.. im too busy
Reply:I used to before I had kids.
Reply:nope.... i never send any kind of cards....... unless they are e-cards.... i send text messages!
Reply:No. I don't even send Christmas cards.
Reply:No, only Valentine's :)
Reply:I do not.
Reply:no there a waste of money
Why do hotels always use white towels
Carla craft punches?
Hi. I have only a few Carla Craft paper punches and was wondering what card designs i can do with them. Please state a website that i can refer to for christmas, easter... card designs. pls nn thank you
Carla craft punches?
Okay, this one is going to be harder to answer...but, you can google search card making or "Stamp it up" in relation to card making. It really depends on the design of your paper punch. But you can do what my ex used to do and punch out several colors of the same design and layer the card giving it a 3-D effect....
Carla craft punches?
Okay, this one is going to be harder to answer...but, you can google search card making or "Stamp it up" in relation to card making. It really depends on the design of your paper punch. But you can do what my ex used to do and punch out several colors of the same design and layer the card giving it a 3-D effect....
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